Wednesday, November 24, 2010
Tuesday, October 12, 2010
I'm also finishing my first erotic romance novel. I've been re-writing one of the chapters and a publisher has asked for the first three chapters to review. I'm waiting for their response and hoping they'll request the complete manuscript.
What's great about writing romance, especially erotic romance, is creating a sense of anticipation between the characters and trying to keep the tensions and emotions honest and compelling so the reader wants to turn the pages.
I believe the eroticism lies in the details. Stay tuned!
The thought came to me as I read a post by romance author Debra Kayn. She wrote about "almost kissing" with her husband and then walking away! Fortunately, sounds like they have a good relationship! Here's what Debra has to say about it:
"I love the moment right before a kiss more than the actual act. That sexual tension that builds between two people grabs me. Of course, that made me change the 10 second rule the next day, and I said that we have to get as close to kissing without actually kissing...and then walk away."
Read Debra's 10-second rule on kissing and learn more about her romance writing.
Think of the ways you can create anticipation in the next day or two: a soft brush of the lips, a touch on the bottom, a candle lit even if not trying to seduce your lover. There are many ways to create those moments that can lead to more intense passion later.
Tuesday, August 24, 2010
Dressing erotically in panties and undressing can be done deliberately, moving the fabric over the legs slowly until the clothing is in place. There's no need to wait until it's time for lovemaking to show your partner your erotic skills in putting them on or taking them off.
If it's morning, and your spouse or partner is in bed, stand in front of the bed and a mirror, if there's one in your room, and hold them gracefully.
Then slowly lift your legs placing them through the openings and pull them slowly up your thighs and begin to wiggle as the fabric touches your bottom. Wait. Don't pull them all the way up. Keep them just below the curve of your butt and run your fingers through your hair and then reach down to finally pull them up over your rear and fit them snugly against your hips.
Taking them off in the evening can be done in the same way. Find a time when it's not necessary to rush. Try it at least once a week -- again, at a time when it's not just time for sexual contact. This is a way to maintain a level of seduction and arousal with a long-time partner.
Friday, July 30, 2010
Sharing fantasies and developing erotic communication is the first step toward a satisfying sexual life and exploring sexual fantasies. But speaking about your desires is challenging. We don't know how the other person listening will respond. Will they think we're spending our time thinking sexually when we should be more concerned about paying bills or improving our career choices - or spending time with the kids?
Take time to light candles, focus on each other, and begin a deeply erotic massage. Warm the oil in the microwave or over a candle. Rub it in your hands and begin at the shoulders before working your way down the back. Take time to focus on each muscle group.
And then raise the issue: say something gentle and leading like "do you know what I've been thinking about lately?"
Pause. Wait for the other person to respond. Be patient. Developing sexual talk and sharing fantasies takes time. Giving your lover a sexual massage is a good way to begin.
Monday, March 1, 2010
shortly after a "shopping trip" for a toy. I had been broken up from a
long term relationship and my girlfriends talked me into finding myself a
plastic boyfriend rather than a rebound relationship.
I perused the higher-end adult shops here in Vancouver to no avail.
Everything on the shelves seemed either goofy, or durogatory. I found
nothing in any of the shops appealing. Nothing "beautiful."
I thought about the industry in general. I thought, If I felt that way and
left empty handed, there must be other women who felt the same.
I thought about what excites me...What turns me on, and strangely I
couldn't shake thoughts of Paris, Art nouveau and ancient porn. I love
that secret, subtle naughtiness inherent in fine art of the past few
these designs can conjure in the mind is much more than any blatant
silicone phallus can allow.
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Tuesday, February 23, 2010
We took a walk in the Arboretum this afternoon under partly cloudy skies with cool breezes – the kind of temperature and environment which I find particularly conducive to romance and romantic thought.
Monday, February 22, 2010
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Tuesday, February 16, 2010
Creative Erotic Art of Male and Female Sexuality: Evolution, Education, Health, Oral Sex, Positions, Masturbation, Pornography, Laws
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Tuesday, February 9, 2010
- stroke his hair lightly
- breathe in his ear
- run your hands on his chest and along his thighs
- straddle across him
Thursday, January 28, 2010
Favorite Massage Oils for Sensual, Erotic Massages
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My wife bought some nice, tight red boy shorts this week at one of her favorite stores. It's not a store where one would normally think of buying Valentine's Day gifts. But it certainly is one of her favorite stores for shopping.
Boy shorts and panties for just under $ 1.00? Yep.
So what is this place? The 99 Cents Store!
She bought them and then placed them under my pillow -- which I don't know if that was by accident or on purpose -- and then I wrote a nice note simply saying "nice."
When she puts them on, I know she'll look great in them.
So Valentine's Day lingerie for under $ 1.00 at the 99 Cents Store.
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Tuesday, January 26, 2010
Enjoying erotic and sexual pleasure is not always easy.
Sex coach and counselor Rachel Scheer gives tips on simple ways to increase positive sexual awareness:
It's awful to think about the fact that many people have been sexually abused. A large number of these people suffer in silence, and then this secret burns within them forever.
There are also people out there that have sexual inhibitions because they never received sex-positive messages growing up.
Perhaps they were told that sex is dirty, so they remain virgins and don't pursue romantic relationships. This Wednesday, January 27, I'll talk about these issues and what you can do to move forward in life. Here are some tips to help you:
1. Give yourself permission to be sexual. You deserve pleasure, so don't be afraid to masturbate or get a sensual massage.
2. Surround yourself with loving objects and people. Only hang out with friends and family that make you happy.
3. Face the truth about your past. You can't change what happened, but you can make positive changes within yourself.
Rachel tips are part of her current workshops on sexual health for women.
Thursday, January 21, 2010
Here are fun, sexy Valentine's Gift Ideas that are unique and affordable.
If you want to let readers know any of your favorite Valentine's Gift ideas then see the email address at the end.
Talk to a Sex Coach!
Why not speak with someone who can keep your fantasies and desires in confidence and offer insight in to your relationship as well? Rachel Scheer, a guest writer on Eros Joy, is available for either in-person or phone consultations at 310-903-2399 or email email@example.com.
She can address a variety of issues or offer fun ideas to spice up a sex life and create greater intimacy. If you do consult her, then tell her you learned about her on Eros Joy. Rachel's been hosting a sexual health series for women recently.
Drip honey on your honey as part of a quiet, sensual massage. Clean it off by licking and giving a nice, warm sponge bath.
Writing a love letter is one way to express sentiments. For men who have no talent in the area of crafts, then simply write the main things you appreciate about your sweetheart and print the document off on nicely decorated paper with flowers. The paper is available at any office supply store - and often in individual sheets.
Romance Novel Gift Collection
Visit a used bookstore and purchase a few different romance novels that run from tame to wild. Debbie Macomber is a favorite and stores also sell collections of erotica for women and couples. Books may be as little as $ 1.00 to $ 3.99 and in good condition or order online. For more Valentine's Day gift ideas, visit this online article Valentine Gifts: Fun and Affordable.
When celebrating those moments in Valentine's Day, it's not the money but it really is the thought that counts. That's lasting intimacy.
If you do want to share any Valentine's Day gift ideas with readers then email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Click here for Valentine's Day gift ideas on a budget.
Tuesday, January 19, 2010
I bought my wife a romance novel by author Debbie Macomber, "Morning Comes Softly." I bought it at a used bookstore and glanced at it, thinking she would enjoy it. She did. She read it non-stop and finished the more than 300-page novel in about a week.
The two main characters are a rancher from Montana who places an ad in a newspaper for a wife and a librarian from Louisiana answers the. The novel picks up on their uneasiness, and then the two characters realize that after they become husband and wife they have to go to bed with each other!
Macomber deals wonderfully with the awkwardness between the sexually experienced rancher and the inexperienced librarian and gives the woman a feisty yet quite likeable demeanor.
It was a novel that helped us discuss a bit more about our own expectations for romance and sexuality in our own marriage.
"Morning Comes Softly" is available through Amazon or many romance book sites.
Some people don't know how to approach an attractive person, while others fear what people will think of their bodies when the clothes come off.
This Wednesday, January 20, I'll talk about the popular topic of dating and discuss how people can get more dates and eventually be in a committed relationship. Along with this, I'll also explain how self-consciousness about your body can have a negative effect on your love life. Here are some tips for the week:
1. Try out new activities, and sign up for classes and events that
interest YOU. You're bound to meet other singles, and then you can improve your new skills together.
2. If the thing you hate most about your body can be fixed, then fix it! There are so many doctors and stylists and coaches that can help you, so don't be afraid to make a change for the better.
3. Try dating people that aren't your exact type. Your perfect match may be someone who doesn't have any of the qualities on your top ten list.
photo courtesy of Penny Matthews
Tuesday, January 12, 2010
Women can achieve wonderful, pleasurable orgasms if they put in the effort. For some, it comes naturally, but for others, it requires much time, patience, and practice.
This Wednesday, January 13 at 6:30 pm, I will be having a women's seminar that discusses what women can do if they have never experienced an orgasm or if they are unable to experience one with their partners.
To RSVP, call me, Rachel Scheer, 310-903-2399 or email email@example.com.
There are a variety of causes for the inability to achieve orgasms, ranging from lack of clitoral stimulation to a negative attitude about sex.
Here are some tips to have more powerful orgasms, and feel free to join me on Wednesday to learn more about this topic.
1. Kegel Exercises: PC muscles can increase pleasure and improve your ability to have an orgasm. These muscles can be found by trying to stop the flow of urine. Squeeze and release them as often as possible.
2. Relaxation: Make sure you're alone and won't be disturbed. Lie down and take long, deep breaths to relax your mind and body. Let go of all your stress. You can meditate, take a bubble bath, or listen to sensual music to put yourself in a relaxed state of mind.
3. Sexual Fantasies: Get erotic magazines, pornography, attractive nude pictures, or whatever you prefer and imagine doing the sexual acts shown. Come up with your own fantasies, and feel free to be as creative as you'd like.
There are two more seminars scheduled for January 20 and January 27. For more details, visit www.scheerintimacy.com.
Monday, January 4, 2010
As a Love and Sexuality Coach, I have found that the most common sexual issue women deal with is lack of desire.
Men are usually full of testosterone which boosts their libidos, but women are often not in the mood due to many possible factors.
On Wednesday, January 6, I will discuss many of the causes of low sexual desire for women and go over some ways to resolve this issue. Here are a few tips, and more information will be shared at the workshop.
1. Talk to your partner if you're upset with him. Communication is key for a successful relationship. Being angry lowers your sexual desire, and the problem will eventually blow up in your face if it's not discussed.
2. Masturbation is important for your physical, emotional, mental and spiritual health. It can release your daily tension and boost your libido. Give it a try!
3. Plan sex dates with your partner. If you feel like you never have time or energy to get intimate, then schedule one night a week where you must have alone time with your man.
The series is led by Rachel Scheer, Certified Love and Sexuality Coach who can be reached at www.scheerintimacy.com.
The series will begin Wednesdays at 6:30 pm
January 6: Low Sexual Desire
Do you feel like you are never in the mood for sex? Learn how to work through this common dilemma.
January 13: Orgasms
Are you unable to reach orgasm either by yourself or with a partner? We will discuss the causes and ways to resolve this issue.
January 20: Dating and Body Image Issues
Are you having a tough time finding the love you deserve? Are you self-conscious about your body? Find out how to conquer your dating fears.
January 27: Sexual Inhibitions and Trauma
Do you feel guilty about having sex? Have you ever had a bad sexual experience? We will spend this evening helping you remove your negative thoughts.
For women ages 18 and up
$20 per week (cash only)
RSVP to firstname.lastname@example.org
Touch is a way to stimulate eroticism in everyday situations. Here are 3 simple tips to make touch a part of your everyday life and increase the erotic joy in your relationship.
Simply walk to where your partner is -- the kitchen, garage, front yard -- and touch him or her on the shoulder or move your finger along the hand.
For relationships where passion has dulled, or one partner does not seem to be aware of the other, don't rush too many little touches in to a single day. Plan on one deliberate touch once a day or once every other day to start.
Say one caring word about your partner as you make the touch. Say your husband is filling up the water container that's kept in the refrigerator. Simply move your finger along his shoulder and say "thanks, sweetheart, for taking time to do that."
One soft touch may not transform a dull moment into heightened eroticism and passionate lovemaking, but a series of light gentle touches sends a signal of caring and awareness.