Friday, July 15, 2011

Sexy and erotic cover art

Eroticism begins in our thoughts--maybe spurred on by something we see or want to experience. How about a camping trip that turns hot and erotic? 

Here is cover art from the DD Symms upcoming story Getaway. The story opens with skinny dipping near a waterfall, has conflict with a misunderstanding between the heroine and the hero who are camping next to each other, and turns hot when they resolve their misunderstanding.

Look for it to come out within the next several weeks. Until then, I hope it spurs some erotic thinking in your mind about taking a camping trip with a loved one ... or an evening escape.

Look for my other stories at my web site, DD Symms, Books.

Friday, April 15, 2011

Relationship is the Heart of Eroticism

Pursuing erotic desires is the quest to have meaningful relationships.
This can be true for women who want their husbands and boyfriends to pay attention to them and appreciate the finer details about them like their eyes, their laugh, and their hair. If the man in their life is not paying attention to these intimate details, then they can experience a level of rejection.

For a man, it could be he wants his wife or girl friend to accept him on his erotic journey and explore sexually and have a venue for sharing sexual fantasies and not be put to shame.
I’m currently writing an erotic romance, a novella, where the heroine of the story goes camping to getaway from a hectic life and find healing in the mountains. She meets a man who takes notice of her little details but then she gets kidnapped into an alternate world where there is plenty of sexual activity but there is no depth of relationship. Ultimately, there is no eroticism.
What if your significant other is not paying attention to you erotically? Feel free to show them this post and then ask them to pay attention to this part of you and to find a way to appreciate and accept your desires. Eroticism should bring us into deeper relationship with the ones we love.

Thursday, April 14, 2011

Dressing sexy and erotically

Dressing sexy to elicit erotic reactions from the ones we love does not require much budget. 
That’s the good news. The right clothing does not have to break a budget and it does not even have to be purchased at a place like Victoria’s Secret. Heck, a sexy shirt can be purchased at a thrift store (seriously) and an awesome bra and panty set can be purchased at a discount retail outlet.
Look at the covers of erotic romance stories to get ideas for dressing sexy and erotically. My upcoming release, Riding Shotgun, features a cover with a woman dressed in a white shirt and a teal bra underneath. Not much budget required.
A teal bra and panty may not be easy to find but it’s doable.
Here’s the idea. Dressing sexy and erotically requires a sexy and erotic attitude. Attitude and sexy movements can generate a lot of heat between couples.
Go ahead and go to an upscale store with your lover to explore options. Find out what you both like when it comes to dressing erotically and sexy. That’s a great place to start and that itself can be a hot exercise. It doesn’t mean that you have to buy much or spend much but it will help you both communicate.
Riding Shotgun is an upcoming release published by Breathless Press and written by me. Visit my website at

Thursday, March 24, 2011

Building erotic anticipation

The best sexual experiences begin in the mind and building erotic anticipation heightens the time together – whether it’s brief or whether the time together is a prolonged night of passion.
Building erotic anticipation can be simple to do: a lingering kiss or hug early in the week; a romantic note folded and left in a pocket; a favorite flower left on a pillow.
Make a romantic invitation and give it to your lover.
Sometimes erotic anticipation is more spontaneous and the time element is made compact.
It’s a theme I explored in my erotic short story Layover where a woman chooses to seek eroticism instead of spending a night alone after discovering she can’t make a connecting flight to Los Angeles.
Her night turns in to an evening of restrained Power Exchange with the anticipation of more hot moments to follow in the future.
Whether in fiction or real life, building anticipation is a great way to connect with the one you love.

Wednesday, March 23, 2011

Exploring sexual confidence in men

Layover: a woman with desire meets a sexually confident man

A sexually confident man, I believe, can enjoy the presence of a beautiful woman and play along with her flirtatious behavior, and let her go if that is what she desires.
While developing character sketches for my short story, Layover, I explored the sexually confident man with the perspective of a man used to taking the dominant role sexually.
Writing the story made me conclude that a man can enjoy the process of seduction without rushing in to it. He could play along with the woman who may be seducing and dancing around in her intentions. He doesn’t jump at the chance for sex but finds himself moving with her to develop trust.
A lesson for men who wonder how to “seduce” a lover or their wife. In Layover, the “hero” smiles and tells the “heroine” that she probably expected him to be “easy” and she finds that is not the case.
Remember, men, seduction is a process. Be confident that you can entice a lover, whomever that may be, and it may take practice. But don’t see yourself as desperate. Work at replacing the desperation with confidence.
Layover is available from Breathless Press and through

Thursday, March 3, 2011

A difference between porn and erotica?

Is there a difference between porn and erotica?
As a writer of fiction and non-fiction, I’ve come to appreciate how writing an erotic romance should really delve in to the character’s emotions and their reactions to the other characters in the story.
Porn, as I see it, shows a sexual act taking place but it may not go deeper than that. And yet there are the men and women in pornography who could be stronger as performers if the full range of their emotions were allowed to be shown and displayed.
Oh, sorry if this doesn’t make sense. There should be “intensity” and “connection” between characters. This should happen in an erotic story – short story, novella, or novel- and it often does not happen.
I believe it could happen more frequently than it does in what is considered pornography: a display of emotion and vulnerability, a dance between characters and desire that’s real.
That’s what captures readers and viewers – capturing our real responses to the situations in which we find ourselves. When this occurs, I think the line between erotica and pornography blends and crosses. Think Erica Lust or Zalman King.
My first short story, Layover, is being released by Breathless Press March 11. I had an excellent editor on the project.
My next story, Riding Shotgun, is in editing with Breathless and I’ll keep you posted on the release.
Both stories are quite different. Both stories have elements of BDSM and D/s and while the situations are different, there’s a certain quality in Riding Shotgun that sets it apart from Layover.
I’m working on an erotic romance novel and novella and will continue to create characters with the real emotions and real questions. Maybe the labels really don’t matter. What’s more important is if the readers appreciate and grasp the characters.

Friday, January 28, 2011

Thinking erotically for men and women

Developing erotic thinking is more than just thinking about sexual activity or fantasizing. Erotic thinking is more deliberate. This is where the word "sensual" has importance. Sensuality uses the senses of touch, taste, sight, smell, and hearing. Use sensual living to enhance erotic thinking.

This is important for husbands who "wish" their wives had more interest in sexual activity. Stop and be willing to take those steps prior to help her discover her sensuality and erotic thinking.

Developing erotic thinking is important for women who want to please their husbands or significant other.

Here is a simple exercise--especially for women: set aside ten quiet minutes. Look in the mirror and enjoy looking at your eyes -- and letting them look back at you. While you're looking in the mirror, close your eyes momentarily and imagine standing in a peaceful location with gentle hands running the length of your body and touching your intimate areas such as your breasts and between your legs.

Imagine the one who is touching has your best interest in mind and will not let any harm come to you. It doesn't matter if there is a clear picture in your mind or not of the person touching you. As long as the trust exists in your thoughts.

Now open your eyes and imagine the scene again and imagine your husband or lover. Let the thoughts affect your sight and your smile--or a sensual parting of the lips.

Repeat this step two or three times per week.

Wednesday, January 19, 2011

An erotic idea while gardening

While snow and cold temperatures grip most of the country, here's an erotic idea to consider while looking forward to spring and getting in the garden or flower bed: wear a straw hat, pink gloves, and nothing else--okay, maybe a bikini if you're shy.

I've been thinking how wearing a wide brim straw hat and nothing else could be quite fun and erotic. Or, the ladies, have your husband or lover take a picture of you while posing wearing a straw hat and gardening gloves and maybe holding a trowel.

Make eye contact with the camera and smile confidently or seductively. The eyes can really display eroticism.

I hope this shows that dressing up erotically can be simple and affordable. It doesn't always mean wearing expensive lingerie. Turn the mundane into something spicy for erotic fun in a relationship.

Tuesday, January 18, 2011

Layover from Breathless Press coming mid-March

My short story, Layover, is scheduled for a March 11 release from Breathless Press. I'm happy about that and it was a good experience in writing erotic fiction. I have a novel in the works, two novellas, and two more short stories. That's why posting on the Eros Joy blog here has been tough.

Writing erotic fiction is not just about sex. It really includes getting inside the character's heads and seeing how their actions impact them. The same can be said about eroticism in real life. The more I've thought about it, the more I've thought how intense and satisfying sex is the outgrowth of eroticism and erotic thinking.

And what leads to erotic thinking? Attitude. This is where women who may not consider themselves good looking or physically attractive have a chance to shine. So much eroticism is reflected in the eyes. Seriously. And the thoughts - and the smile. I'll keep working on reflecting that in my writing and for women who want to add a new erotic dimension to their lives, then work on the smile and attitude.