Thursday, January 28, 2010

Massage oils for giving gentle massages

Favorite Massage Oils for Sensual, Erotic Massages

Giving a deep, sensual massage with the right massage oil or lotion is an effective way to relax and lower inhibitions to block out the demands and pressures of everyday life. Choosing the right lotion adds to the pleasurable sensations.
Here are favorites I recommend:

Vanilla Blackberry Currant from Bath and Body Works was one of our favorites. Price range $ 13 to $ 16
This was one of the first massage lotions we found that we really liked. And it lasted us several months. Only a few drops were needed to provide a soothing massage. The oil felt smooth and clean. The aroma was quite pleasant.

Mood Succulent by Victoria’s Secret $5 - on sale when we purchased
A collection of seductive fragrances composed of aphrodisiacs from around the world designed to stimulate the senses and enhance every mood. The aroma is blackberry and vanilla. So the theme for us on the aromas we enjoy are clear!
While the copy may be a bit overstated, it’s also pleasant and the price was right as well. Again, only small amounts are needed and even when massaging once a week or once every two weeks, the entire supply will last several months.

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Valentine's Gifts on a Budget

It is possible to buy Valentine's Day gifts on a budget.

My wife bought some nice, tight red boy shorts this week at one of her favorite stores. It's not a store where one would normally think of buying Valentine's Day gifts. But it certainly is one of her favorite stores for shopping.

Boy shorts and panties for just under $ 1.00? Yep.

So what is this place? The 99 Cents Store!

She bought them and then placed them under my pillow -- which I don't know if that was by accident or on purpose -- and then I wrote a nice note simply saying "nice."

When she puts them on, I know she'll look great in them.

So Valentine's Day lingerie for under $ 1.00 at the 99 Cents Store.

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Tuesday, January 26, 2010

How to enjoy sexuality and eroticism

Enjoying erotic and sexual pleasure is not always easy.

Sex coach and counselor Rachel Scheer gives tips on simple ways to increase positive sexual awareness:

It's awful to think about the fact that many people have been sexually abused. A large number of these people suffer in silence, and then this secret burns within them forever.

There are also people out there that have sexual inhibitions because they never received sex-positive messages growing up.

Perhaps they were told that sex is dirty, so they remain virgins and don't pursue romantic relationships. This Wednesday, January 27, I'll talk about these issues and what you can do to move forward in life. Here are some tips to help you:

1. Give yourself permission to be sexual. You deserve pleasure, so don't be afraid to masturbate or get a sensual massage.

2. Surround yourself with loving objects and people. Only hang out with friends and family that make you happy.

3. Face the truth about your past. You can't change what happened, but you can make positive changes within yourself.

Rachel tips are part of her current workshops on sexual health for women.

Thursday, January 21, 2010

Fun Sexy Valentine's Gift Ideas

Here are fun, sexy Valentine's Gift Ideas that are unique and affordable.

If you want to let readers know any of your favorite Valentine's Gift ideas then see the email address at the end.

Talk to a Sex Coach!

Why not speak with someone who can keep your fantasies and desires in confidence and offer insight in to your relationship as well? Rachel Scheer, a guest writer on Eros Joy, is available for either in-person or phone consultations at
310-903-2399 or email

She can address a variety of issues or offer fun ideas to spice up a sex life and create greater intimacy. If you do consult her, then tell her you learned about her on Eros Joy.
Rachel's been hosting a sexual health series for women recently.


Drip honey on your honey as part of a quiet, sensual massage. Clean it off by licking and giving a nice, warm sponge bath.

Love Letter

Writing a love letter is one way to express sentiments. For men who have no talent in the area of crafts, then simply write the main things you appreciate about your sweetheart and print the document off on nicely decorated paper with flowers. The paper is available at any office supply store - and often in individual sheets.

Romance Novel Gift Collection

Visit a used bookstore and purchase a few different romance novels that run from tame to wild. Debbie Macomber is a favorite and stores also sell collections of erotica for women and couples. Books may be as little as $ 1.00 to $ 3.99 and in good condition or order online. For more Valentine's Day gift ideas, visit this online article Valentine Gifts: Fun and Affordable.

When celebrating those moments in Valentine's Day, it's not the money but it really is the thought that counts. That's lasting intimacy.

If you do want to share any Valentine's Day gift ideas with readers then email me at

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Tuesday, January 19, 2010

Spark romance in marriage with a romance novel

Spark romance in a marriage with a romance novel with a character that is identifiable.

I bought my wife a romance novel by author Debbie Macomber, "Morning Comes Softly." I bought it at a used bookstore and glanced at it, thinking she would enjoy it. She did. She read it non-stop and finished the more than 300-page novel in about a week.

The two main characters are a rancher from Montana who places an ad in a newspaper for a wife and a librarian from Louisiana answers the. The novel picks up on their uneasiness, and then the two characters realize that after they become husband and wife they have to go to bed with each other!

Macomber deals wonderfully with the awkwardness between the sexually experienced rancher and the inexperienced librarian and gives the woman a feisty yet quite likeable demeanor.

It was a novel that helped us discuss a bit more about our own expectations for romance and sexuality in our own marriage.

"Morning Comes Softly" is available through Amazon or many romance book sites.

Dating tips for career-minded singles

I'm providing these dating tips for busy people since it's difficult to find love in this career-minded world.

Some people don't know how to approach an attractive person, while others fear what people will think of their bodies when the clothes come off.

This Wednesday, January 20, I'll talk about the popular topic of dating and discuss how people can get more dates and eventually be in a committed relationship. Along with this, I'll also explain how self-consciousness about your body can have a negative effect on your love life. Here are some tips for the week:

1. Try out new activities, and sign up for classes and events that
interest YOU. You're bound to meet other singles, and then you can improve your new skills together.

2. If the thing you hate most about your body can be fixed, then fix it! There are so many doctors and stylists and coaches that can help you, so don't be afraid to make a change for the better.

3. Try dating people that aren't your exact type. Your perfect match may be someone who doesn't have any of the qualities on your top ten list.

photo courtesy of Penny Matthews

Tuesday, January 12, 2010

Tips for orgasm and women's sexual health seminar

Women can achieve wonderful, pleasurable orgasms if they put in the effort. For some, it comes naturally, but for others, it requires much time, patience, and practice.

This Wednesday, January 13 at 6:30 pm, I will be having a women's seminar that discusses what women can do if they have never experienced an orgasm or if they are unable to experience one with their partners.

To RSVP, call me, Rachel Scheer, 310-903-2399 or email

There are a variety of causes for the inability to achieve orgasms, ranging from lack of clitoral stimulation to a negative attitude about sex.

Here are some tips to have more powerful orgasms, and feel free to join me on Wednesday to learn more about this topic.

1. Kegel Exercises: PC muscles can increase pleasure and improve your ability to have an orgasm. These muscles can be found by trying to stop the flow of urine. Squeeze and release them as often as possible.

2. Relaxation: Make sure you're alone and won't be disturbed. Lie down and take long, deep breaths to relax your mind and body. Let go of all your stress. You can meditate, take a bubble bath, or listen to sensual music to put yourself in a relaxed state of mind.

3. Sexual Fantasies: Get erotic magazines, pornography, attractive nude pictures, or whatever you prefer and imagine doing the sexual acts shown. Come up with your own fantasies, and feel free to be as creative as you'd like.

There are two more seminars scheduled for January 20 and January 27. For more details, visit

Monday, January 4, 2010

Sexual desire for women by Rachel Scheer

As a Love and Sexuality Coach, I have found that the most common sexual issue women deal with is lack of desire.

Men are usually full of testosterone which boosts their libidos, but women are often not in the mood due to many possible factors.

On Wednesday, January 6, I will discuss many of the causes of low sexual desire for women and go over some ways to resolve this issue. Here are a few tips, and more information will be shared at the workshop.

1. Talk to your partner if you're upset with him. Communication is key for a successful relationship. Being angry lowers your sexual desire, and the problem will eventually blow up in your face if it's not discussed.

2. Masturbation is important for your physical, emotional, mental and spiritual health. It can release your daily tension and boost your libido. Give it a try!

3. Plan sex dates with your partner. If you feel like you never have time or energy to get intimate, then schedule one night a week where you must have alone time with your man.

Sexual health series in Los Angeles for women

A four-week "Sexual Health Series for Women" is taking place starting Wednesday evenings January 6.

The series is led by Rachel Scheer, Certified Love and Sexuality Coach who can be reached at

The series will begin Wednesdays at 6:30 pm
, 400 S. Beverly Drive, Suite 316, Beverly Hills, CA 90212. The topics to be covered are:

January 6: Low Sexual Desire

Do you feel like you are never in the mood for sex? Learn how to work through this common dilemma.

January 13: Orgasms

Are you unable to reach orgasm either by yourself or with a partner? We will discuss the causes and ways to resolve this issue.

January 20: Dating and Body Image Issues

Are you having a tough time finding the love you deserve? Are you self-conscious about your body? Find out how to conquer your dating fears.

January 27: Sexual Inhibitions and Trauma

Do you feel guilty about having sex? Have you ever had a bad sexual experience? We will spend this evening helping you remove your negative thoughts.

For women ages 18 and up

$20 per week (cash only)


Erotic tip: touch

Touch is a way to stimulate eroticism in everyday situations. Here are 3 simple tips to make touch a part of your everyday life and increase the erotic joy in your relationship.

Step 1

Simply walk to where your partner is -- the kitchen, garage, front yard -- and touch him or her on the shoulder or move your finger along the hand.

Step 2

For relationships where passion has dulled, or one partner does not seem to be aware of the other, don't rush too many little touches in to a single day. Plan on one deliberate touch once a day or once every other day to start.

Step 3

Say one caring word about your partner as you make the touch. Say your husband is filling up the water container that's kept in the refrigerator. Simply move your finger along his shoulder and say "thanks, sweetheart, for taking time to do that."


One soft touch may not transform a dull moment into heightened eroticism and passionate lovemaking, but a series of light gentle touches sends a signal of caring and awareness.