Kissing - or almost kissing - and erotic joy

Creating anticipation is one of the best ways of sparking erotic joy in a relationship. In a healthy relationship, there's no problem using a kiss - or an almost kiss - as a form of teasing to create the anticipation of a deep sexual experience later.

The thought came to me as I read a post by romance author Debra Kayn. She wrote about "almost kissing" with her husband and then walking away! Fortunately, sounds like they have a good relationship! Here's what Debra has to say about it:

"I love the moment right before a kiss more than the actual act. That sexual tension that builds between two people grabs me. Of course, that made me change the 10 second rule the next day, and I said that we have to get as close to kissing without actually kissing...and then walk away."

Read Debra's 10-second rule on kissing and learn more about her romance writing.

Think of the ways you can create anticipation in the next day or two: a soft brush of the lips, a touch on the bottom, a candle lit even if not trying to seduce your lover. There are many ways to create those moments that can lead to more intense passion later.

7 Tips for Romancing Your Spouse

Developing intimacy with your spouse requires a commitment to romancing your spouse as well.

Romance, intimacy and sexual erotic joy are a mystery in some ways but they can, and should, be incorporated into our daily lives. After all, why compartmentalize ourselves? Instead, live as a whole person. 

Here are tips to romance your spouse, partner, every day:

1) Touch. Find ways to touch lightly, frequently. Let fingers touch against a hip, an arm, or a hand.

2) Stop for a six-second hug. Don't be afraid if one spouse is upset, disappointed or feels like nothing good is happening in life. That's even more reason to give a hug.

3) Read a poem out loud in bed on a weeknight.

4) Buy a flower, one flower, and give it with a note saying "thanks for your love. I was thinking about you."

5) Place a heart in a lunch bag, briefcase or on the dashboard of the car.

6) Offer to do a chore around the house the other one normally does 

7) Purchase a romantic ebook from a publisher

Romancing your spouse and your partner is important even in times of career downturns, financial stress, or family upheavel. 

Create the moments for erotic joy and romance -- don't wait for them to somehow magically occur. That's the test of a strong relationship and helps fantasy mesh a bit more closely with reality.

Massage oils for giving gentle massages

Favorite Massage Oils for Sensual, Erotic Massages

Giving a deep, sensual massage with the right massage oil or lotion is an effective way to relax and lower inhibitions to block out the demands and pressures of everyday life. Choosing the right lotion adds to the pleasurable sensations.

Here are favorites I recommend:

Vanilla Blackberry Currant from Bath and Body Works was one of our favorites. Price range $ 13 to $ 16

This was one of the first massage lotions we found that we really liked. And it lasted us several months. Only a few drops were needed to provide a soothing massage. The oil felt smooth and clean. The aroma was quite pleasant.

Mood Succulent by Victoria’s Secret $5 - on sale when we purchased

A collection of seductive fragrances composed of aphrodisiacs from around the world designed to stimulate the senses and enhance every mood. The aroma is blackberry and vanilla. So the theme for us on the aromas we enjoy are clear!

While the copy may be a bit overstated, it’s also pleasant and the price was right as well. Again, only small amounts are needed and even when massaging once a week or once every two weeks, the entire supply will last several months.

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Fun Sexy Valentine's Gift Ideas

Here are fun, sexy Valentine's Gift Ideas that are unique and affordable.

If you want to let readers know any of your favorite Valentine's Gift ideas then see the email address at the end.

Talk to a Sex Coach!
Why not speak with someone who can keep your fantasies and desires in confidence and offer insight in to your relationship as well? Rachel Scheer, a guest writer on Eros Joy, is available for either in-person or phone consultations at 310-903-2399 or email rachel@scheerintimacy.com.

She can address a variety of issues or offer fun ideas to spice up a sex life and create greater intimacy. If you do consult her, then tell her you learned about her on Eros Joy. Rachel's been hosting a sexual health series for women recently.

Honey
Drip honey on your honey as part of a quiet, sensual massage. Clean it off by licking and giving a nice, warm sponge bath.

Love Letter
Writing a love letter is one way to express sentiments. For men who have no talent in the area of crafts, then simply write the main things you appreciate about your sweetheart and print the document off on nicely decorated paper with flowers. The paper is available at any office supply store - and often in individual sheets.

Romance Novel Gift Collection
Visit a used bookstore and purchase a few different romance novels that run from tame to wild. Debbie Macomber is a favorite and stores also sell collections of erotica for women and couples. Books may be as little as $ 1.00 to $ 3.99 and in good condition or order online. For more Valentine's Day gift ideas, visit this online article Valentine Gifts: Fun and Affordable.

When celebrating those moments in Valentine's Day, it's not the money but it really is the thought that counts. That's lasting intimacy.

If you do want to share any Valentine's Day gift ideas with readers then email me at deesm111@yahoo.com.

Click here for Valentine's Day gift ideas on a budget.