7 Tips for Romancing Your Spouse

Developing intimacy with your spouse requires a commitment to romancing your spouse as well.

Romance, intimacy and sexual erotic joy are a mystery in some ways but they can, and should, be incorporated into our daily lives. After all, why compartmentalize ourselves? Instead, live as a whole person. 

Here are tips to romance your spouse, partner, every day:

1) Touch. Find ways to touch lightly, frequently. Let fingers touch against a hip, an arm, or a hand.

2) Stop for a six-second hug. Don't be afraid if one spouse is upset, disappointed or feels like nothing good is happening in life. That's even more reason to give a hug.

3) Read a poem out loud in bed on a weeknight.

4) Buy a flower, one flower, and give it with a note saying "thanks for your love. I was thinking about you."

5) Place a heart in a lunch bag, briefcase or on the dashboard of the car.

6) Offer to do a chore around the house the other one normally does 

7) Purchase a romantic ebook from a publisher

Romancing your spouse and your partner is important even in times of career downturns, financial stress, or family upheavel. 

Create the moments for erotic joy and romance -- don't wait for them to somehow magically occur. That's the test of a strong relationship and helps fantasy mesh a bit more closely with reality.

Massage oils for giving gentle massages

Favorite Massage Oils for Sensual, Erotic Massages

Giving a deep, sensual massage with the right massage oil or lotion is an effective way to relax and lower inhibitions to block out the demands and pressures of everyday life. Choosing the right lotion adds to the pleasurable sensations.

Here are favorites I recommend:

Vanilla Blackberry Currant from Bath and Body Works was one of our favorites. Price range $ 13 to $ 16

This was one of the first massage lotions we found that we really liked. And it lasted us several months. Only a few drops were needed to provide a soothing massage. The oil felt smooth and clean. The aroma was quite pleasant.

Mood Succulent by Victoria’s Secret $5 - on sale when we purchased

A collection of seductive fragrances composed of aphrodisiacs from around the world designed to stimulate the senses and enhance every mood. The aroma is blackberry and vanilla. So the theme for us on the aromas we enjoy are clear!

While the copy may be a bit overstated, it’s also pleasant and the price was right as well. Again, only small amounts are needed and even when massaging once a week or once every two weeks, the entire supply will last several months.

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Valentine's Gifts on a Budget

It is possible to buy Valentine's Day gifts on a budget.

My wife bought some nice, tight red boy shorts this week at one of her favorite stores. It's not a store where one would normally think of buying Valentine's Day gifts. But it certainly is one of her favorite stores for shopping.

Boy shorts and panties for just under $ 1.00? Yep.

So what is this place? The 99 Cents Store!

She bought them and then placed them under my pillow -- which I don't know if that was by accident or on purpose -- and then I wrote a nice note simply saying "nice."

When she puts them on, I know she'll look great in them.

So Valentine's Day lingerie for under $ 1.00 at the 99 Cents Store.

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Dating tips for career-minded singles

I'm providing these dating tips for busy people since it's difficult to find love in this career-minded world.

Some people don't know how to approach an attractive person, while others fear what people will think of their bodies when the clothes come off.

This Wednesday, January 20, I'll talk about the popular topic of dating and discuss how people can get more dates and eventually be in a committed relationship. Along with this, I'll also explain how self-consciousness about your body can have a negative effect on your love life. Here are some tips for the week:

1. Try out new activities, and sign up for classes and events that
interest YOU. You're bound to meet other singles, and then you can improve your new skills together.

2. If the thing you hate most about your body can be fixed, then fix it! There are so many doctors and stylists and coaches that can help you, so don't be afraid to make a change for the better.

3. Try dating people that aren't your exact type. Your perfect match may be someone who doesn't have any of the qualities on your top ten list.

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Tips for orgasm and women's sexual health seminar

Women can achieve wonderful, pleasurable orgasms if they put in the effort. For some, it comes naturally, but for others, it requires much time, patience, and practice.

This Wednesday, January 13 at 6:30 pm, I will be having a women's seminar that discusses what women can do if they have never experienced an orgasm or if they are unable to experience one with their partners.

To RSVP, call me, Rachel Scheer, 310-903-2399 or email rachel@scheerintimacy.com.


There are a variety of causes for the inability to achieve orgasms, ranging from lack of clitoral stimulation to a negative attitude about sex.

Here are some tips to have more powerful orgasms, and feel free to join me on Wednesday to learn more about this topic.

1. Kegel Exercises: PC muscles can increase pleasure and improve your ability to have an orgasm. These muscles can be found by trying to stop the flow of urine. Squeeze and release them as often as possible.

2. Relaxation: Make sure you're alone and won't be disturbed. Lie down and take long, deep breaths to relax your mind and body. Let go of all your stress. You can meditate, take a bubble bath, or listen to sensual music to put yourself in a relaxed state of mind.

3. Sexual Fantasies: Get erotic magazines, pornography, attractive nude pictures, or whatever you prefer and imagine doing the sexual acts shown. Come up with your own fantasies, and feel free to be as creative as you'd like.

There are two more seminars scheduled for January 20 and January 27. For more details, visit www.scheerintimacy.com.

Sexual health series in Los Angeles for women

A four-week "Sexual Health Series for Women" is taking place starting Wednesday evenings January 6.


The series is led by Rachel Scheer, Certified Love and Sexuality Coach who can be reached at www.scheerintimacy.com.


The series will begin Wednesdays at 6:30 pm, 400 S. Beverly Drive, Suite 316, Beverly Hills, CA 90212. The topics to be covered are:

January 6: Low Sexual Desire

Do you feel like you are never in the mood for sex? Learn how to work through this common dilemma.

January 13: Orgasms

Are you unable to reach orgasm either by yourself or with a partner? We will discuss the causes and ways to resolve this issue.

January 20: Dating and Body Image Issues

Are you having a tough time finding the love you deserve? Are you self-conscious about your body? Find out how to conquer your dating fears.

January 27: Sexual Inhibitions and Trauma

Do you feel guilty about having sex? Have you ever had a bad sexual experience? We will spend this evening helping you remove your negative thoughts.

For women ages 18 and up

$20 per week (cash only)

RSVP to rachel@scheerintimacy.com