Friday, January 28, 2011

Thinking erotically for men and women

Developing erotic thinking is more than just thinking about sexual activity or fantasizing. Erotic thinking is more deliberate. This is where the word "sensual" has importance. Sensuality uses the senses of touch, taste, sight, smell, and hearing. Use sensual living to enhance erotic thinking.

This is important for husbands who "wish" their wives had more interest in sexual activity. Stop and be willing to take those steps prior to help her discover her sensuality and erotic thinking.

Developing erotic thinking is important for women who want to please their husbands or significant other.

Here is a simple exercise--especially for women: set aside ten quiet minutes. Look in the mirror and enjoy looking at your eyes -- and letting them look back at you. While you're looking in the mirror, close your eyes momentarily and imagine standing in a peaceful location with gentle hands running the length of your body and touching your intimate areas such as your breasts and between your legs.

Imagine the one who is touching has your best interest in mind and will not let any harm come to you. It doesn't matter if there is a clear picture in your mind or not of the person touching you. As long as the trust exists in your thoughts.

Now open your eyes and imagine the scene again and imagine your husband or lover. Let the thoughts affect your sight and your smile--or a sensual parting of the lips.

Repeat this step two or three times per week.

Wednesday, January 19, 2011

An erotic idea while gardening

While snow and cold temperatures grip most of the country, here's an erotic idea to consider while looking forward to spring and getting in the garden or flower bed: wear a straw hat, pink gloves, and nothing else--okay, maybe a bikini if you're shy.

I've been thinking how wearing a wide brim straw hat and nothing else could be quite fun and erotic. Or, the ladies, have your husband or lover take a picture of you while posing wearing a straw hat and gardening gloves and maybe holding a trowel.

Make eye contact with the camera and smile confidently or seductively. The eyes can really display eroticism.

I hope this shows that dressing up erotically can be simple and affordable. It doesn't always mean wearing expensive lingerie. Turn the mundane into something spicy for erotic fun in a relationship.

Tuesday, January 18, 2011

Layover from Breathless Press coming mid-March

My short story, Layover, is scheduled for a March 11 release from Breathless Press. I'm happy about that and it was a good experience in writing erotic fiction. I have a novel in the works, two novellas, and two more short stories. That's why posting on the Eros Joy blog here has been tough.

Writing erotic fiction is not just about sex. It really includes getting inside the character's heads and seeing how their actions impact them. The same can be said about eroticism in real life. The more I've thought about it, the more I've thought how intense and satisfying sex is the outgrowth of eroticism and erotic thinking.

And what leads to erotic thinking? Attitude. This is where women who may not consider themselves good looking or physically attractive have a chance to shine. So much eroticism is reflected in the eyes. Seriously. And the thoughts - and the smile. I'll keep working on reflecting that in my writing and for women who want to add a new erotic dimension to their lives, then work on the smile and attitude.