Sunday, November 23, 2008

Eros Joy in Real Life

Last night, I lay tired and frustrated by my wife's side. It was about 9:50 and the noise of the previous weeks and the evening was engulfing me and would not let go. I had told my wife about my frustration in how in so much of our marriage she would not stop parenting and I needed a break.

In addition, a family member of mine who is in serious trouble is in the area and needing a great deal of help.

Although she wore a favorite red top of mine and a red thong, I didn't touch her.

Emotionally, I lay drained and while wanting to be aroused and make love I could feel a sullenness gripping me. I turned over, hugged a pillow and drifted fitfully to sleep. Then the baby cried - my wife got up to see her and settle her down.

There are no easy answers except to say I continue to be the decision-maker.

Yes, I want to feel her thighs and touch her softly below her navel. I want to enjoy the fabric that is so soft and let my hand linger between her legs. I want to kiss her in the ear and pull her close to me.

But I also want quiet. I want stillness and I want the world to not rush so rapidly. I want the yelling among the kids to stop and I want those who are sick to find the help they need.

I want to feel rejuvenated in order to meet those needs.

This is where fantasy and reality collide and where taking time to refresh is so necessary.

Yet, slowing down is so hard.

Tuesday, November 11, 2008

Romancing Your Spouse: Mild to Wild Ideas

I finally decided how to direct my erotic thoughts about my wife. Last week, I wrote an article on romancing your spouse using times together that are tame yet offer chances to talk while also developing a deeper eroticism and connection together through more erotic times.

As I write this post, the thoughts are swirling through my mind on the many erotic ways a husband and wife can stimulate each other.

I also realized why it's important as the whirldwind of serious news swirls all around: the two of you can be a safe haven for each other.

Romancing your spouse prevents you from taking each other for granted. It also lets you be vulnerable with each other in new ways. It's not just hedonistic. Being erotic with your spouse must be done in the face of harsh, cold reality.

Tuesday, June 3, 2008

As I Ponder Sexually Speaking . . .

As I ponder the use of this blog, why I originally created it, who I am, and what the purpose of this should be, I determined that one, practical reason would be to help husbands understand how they can approach their wives sexually and create an interest and passion.

I'll be back soon to continue writing on tips to help husbands capture the erotic attention of their wives.