Erotic Touches on My Wife: Her Bottom

I enjoy touching my wife's bottom even during the day when she's wearing jeans. I like to slide my hand over the buttocks and sometimes I will slap them.

I don't slap too hard, especially during the course of the day when I'm walking through a room like the kitchen and she's bending over the dishwasher. I like to her surprise!

To let her know I want her in the evening, I will lay my hand against her rear end - her derriere - and I will leave it momentarily and then I'll walk away without saying anything.

Touch is so important and I think of it now . . . when she lies against me in bed and she backs up to me . . . my erection presses against her and I wrap my arms around her torso and I feel her small breasts and then I kiss her on the back of the neck.

Visions form in my imagination of her being massaged and, in reality, I begin to massage her bottom. I touch her . . . gently, sometimes I will pull back the sheets and I will spank her lightly.

I can tell she's aroused when she begins to move her hips up and down, up and down . . . I will place my fingers between her legs and kiss her ear, breathing deeply into it.

The touches may not always lead to intercourse. Many times I will straddle her and she will lick me while I will bend over and place my tongue inside her and against her clitoris.

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Eros Joy in Real Life

Last night, I lay tired and frustrated by my wife's side. It was about 9:50 and the noise of the previous weeks and the evening was engulfing me and would not let go. I had told my wife about my frustration in how in so much of our marriage she would not stop parenting and I needed a break.

In addition, a family member of mine who is in serious trouble is in the area and needing a great deal of help.

Although she wore a favorite red top of mine and a red thong, I didn't touch her.

Emotionally, I lay drained and while wanting to be aroused and make love I could feel a sullenness gripping me. I turned over, hugged a pillow and drifted fitfully to sleep. Then the baby cried - my wife got up to see her and settle her down.

There are no easy answers except to say I continue to be the decision-maker.

Yes, I want to feel her thighs and touch her softly below her navel. I want to enjoy the fabric that is so soft and let my hand linger between her legs. I want to kiss her in the ear and pull her close to me.

But I also want quiet. I want stillness and I want the world to not rush so rapidly. I want the yelling among the kids to stop and I want those who are sick to find the help they need.

I want to feel rejuvenated in order to meet those needs.

This is where fantasy and reality collide and where taking time to refresh is so necessary.

Yet, slowing down is so hard.

Romancing Your Spouse: Mild to Wild Ideas

I finally decided how to direct my erotic thoughts about my wife. Last week, I wrote an article on romancing your spouse using times together that are tame yet offer chances to talk while also developing a deeper eroticism and connection together through more erotic times.

As I write this post, the thoughts are swirling through my mind on the many erotic ways a husband and wife can stimulate each other.

I also realized why it's important as the whirldwind of serious news swirls all around: the two of you can be a safe haven for each other.

Romancing your spouse prevents you from taking each other for granted. It also lets you be vulnerable with each other in new ways. It's not just hedonistic. Being erotic with your spouse must be done in the face of harsh, cold reality.