An erotic idea while gardening

While snow and cold temperatures grip most of the country, here's an erotic idea to consider while looking forward to spring and getting in the garden or flower bed: wear a straw hat, pink gloves, and nothing else--okay, maybe a bikini if you're shy.

I've been thinking how wearing a wide brim straw hat and nothing else could be quite fun and erotic. Or, the ladies, have your husband or lover take a picture of you while posing wearing a straw hat and gardening gloves and maybe holding a trowel.

Make eye contact with the camera and smile confidently or seductively. The eyes can really display eroticism.

I hope this shows that dressing up erotically can be simple and affordable. It doesn't always mean wearing expensive lingerie. Turn the mundane into something spicy for erotic fun in a relationship.

Layover from Breathless Press coming mid-March

My short story, Layover, is scheduled for a March 11 release from Breathless Press. I'm happy about that and it was a good experience in writing erotic fiction. I have a novel in the works, two novellas, and two more short stories. That's why posting on the Eros Joy blog here has been tough.

Writing erotic fiction is not just about sex. It really includes getting inside the character's heads and seeing how their actions impact them. The same can be said about eroticism in real life. The more I've thought about it, the more I've thought how intense and satisfying sex is the outgrowth of eroticism and erotic thinking.

And what leads to erotic thinking? Attitude. This is where women who may not consider themselves good looking or physically attractive have a chance to shine. So much eroticism is reflected in the eyes. Seriously. And the thoughts - and the smile. I'll keep working on reflecting that in my writing and for women who want to add a new erotic dimension to their lives, then work on the smile and attitude.

Sensation play for erotic joy

I like the term "sensation play" and the ability to instill erotic joy in a relationship. What is sensation play? Likely, you've heard about BDSM. It really is about having your partner feel different sensations. Married couples may think, "I could never involve my spouse in bdsm" even in a fun way. I had thought that for years with my wife. BDSM may seem too intense or degrading. So erase it from your mind and instead consider it as giving your partner surprises and sensations that he or she would otherwise not experience. 

Spanking is one of the sensations I now use with my wife and I've increased the intensity of them. She can take a pretty good spanking which is fun to give and fun to see her cute bottom turn slightly red. 

A blindfold is another way to give surprises and sensations. Buy a silk scarf from a department store or a blindfold from a drugstore outlet. The cost is quite affordable. Once your partner is wearing a blindfold and can't see, they need to know they can trust you. Using massage oil on them is another way to give a pleasant sensation.

Monday night we had the house to ourselves and though we had some calls to make we decided to have sex. While I got out the toys, I wound up not using any. Instead a few spanks, licking and massage oil did just fine. Sensations we produced were powerful and resulted in an orgasmic great time. I'll do some more postings on sensation play for erotic joy.